If government was a magician, marriage equality would be the distraction we are meant to look at while the real work happens right in front of our eyes. It is embarrassing that a nation which prides itself on “Justice for All” would have any question about what is right here. Yet, no matter how ridiculous it may seem that we are talking about this year after year, it is important to stand with our brothers, sisters, friends and strangers in order that they be granted the same rights as all of us.
I have not heard a logical explanation as to why we should not allow legal gay marriage in the United States. Most of them are framed in religious traditions that should not be used as the basis of any laws according to the Constitution. Religious morals and beliefs are wonderful and personal, but the Constitution upholds many laws that might offend certain parties. There are religious sects that do not believe in the right to bear arms and groups that still believe all races should not have the same rights.
In truth though, I believe we are all missing the point. On a political, religious and personal level it does not matter what “makes” people gay. It does not matter if it is a sin. It does not matter whether you agree with the lifestyle, chosen or otherwise. It does not matter.
The point that matters, whether Christian, Yogi, Muslim or Atheist, is that as human beings we are charged to “Treat others as you would like to be treated.”
This, The Golden Rule has been around since writing began. It does not belong to any particular religion, but rather seems to be a thread through all religious traditions (check it out!! Wiki). It is the only true north that can guide us when making any decision.
“Then one of them, which was a lawyer, asked him a question, tempting him, and saying, ‘Master, which is the great commandment in the law?’
“And Jesus answered him, The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord our God is one Lord: And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.“
If we are to take Jesus literally here, he is telling us that love and equality between all are the two greatest commandments. All others must come after. All else is distraction. This is why I say we are missing the point. We are being distracted from our true purpose by these flashy tricks. It’s not so easy to love one another. It’s easier to pick one another apart. It’s easier to condemn than it is to have compassion.
It is easier to condemn that which we don’t like or agree with. It is easier to hate than to love, especially when faced with something we can’t understand. Searching for understanding, is the first step to acceptance. We often fall short. We stop at the law or teaching and forget that we must wrap each in a love blanket. Love is the bacon of the world, it makes everything taste better.
God did not create us all the same, yet we are created equal. If life is to be a lesson, differences are our greatest teacher. The greatest lesson we can learn is to accept differences with love and compassion. God did not create normal. At the deepest level we really are all the same. If our life is to be judged at our death, it will first be judged according to how we treated our neighbor. All the rest will come after. What happens when you don’t pass the first question?
The Golden Girls had it right the whole time: